A Bit of a Dilemma

I think all moms want the same things for their children.  We want them to be pretty and popular.  I felt like I had achieved this with my older two.  People always tell me that Merlin is a very handsome little boy (even though I can’t see it) and he is certainly very popular with his peers and with adults, despite being extremely nerdy and odd.  Of course Starling is stunning looking, and while she has never  had a large number of admirers, she makes up for that in the quality of her friends.  Starling naturally just attracts the prettiest and most socially prominent of her peers.

Since Merlin came home from camp this summer there have been changes in my lil’ girl.  First of all, she began playing with her brother…all of the time.  I don’t want to say this is a bad thing.  It keeps them both out of my hair for a large part of the afternoons, but it certainly can’t help her reputation to be so friendly with one of the children from the genius class.

It is like my big smalls are friends or something. Weird.

It is like my big smalls are friends or something. Weird.

The part I am struggling with most however is Merlin’s friend Allie.  She has come over after school several times and she seems like a very sweet little girl.  It is hard to find a single speck of that horrible Fat Alice in this child.  Now Starling has started playing with her and this afternoon she asked to have her over even though Merlin was at soccer.  I offfered to go pick up Alcott or Amber or one of the other popular girls, but Starling said that she and Fat Alice, I mean Allie, were eating lunch together today and Fat Alice had an idea for a mystery club so they wanted to make a sign up sheet so everyone could join.  There is so much wrong with that idea.

When you look at Allie, there is nothing terribly wrong with her.  But won’t everyone always remember that she was once Fat Alice and wonder why Starling has an ugly unpopular friend?

This is why I am confused. She is no longer a fat mess.

This is why I am confused. She is no longer a fat mess.

I really don’t know what to do.

9 thoughts on “A Bit of a Dilemma

  1. Cindy McCain

    You could take ol’fattie on a shopping trip. That sweater is appalling. A makeover might make her a more suitable companion for your own carefully-dressed children. Of course I’m not sure why all the hard work falls to you, my dear. We all have our limits and putting a silk tutu on a pig is not in your job description, I’m sure.

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  2. Big Fan

    Dilemma!
    Who are Alice’s family? Are they worth cultivating? If so maybe you should overlook her past failings. Also if she is a delightful and intelligent child it is possible that she might go places. Marry a millionaire, or become a model or a successful business woman or blogger! I would keep on the right side of her if I were you.

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  3. suzy

    Mommy’s in tuition always knows best! Go with your gut on this. They say kids get into trouble like this when this parents are less involved. Maybe the PTA is too much right now?

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      1. suzy

        I am so busy busy busy with my jobs and blog plus spa treatments and gym and Barre and organizing our monthly ladies nights out for every week. I dint see how PAT can fit in with all the important things I have to do.

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  4. Mom2Lex+Zander

    Is this a mom-of-girls thing? I can’t remember the last time it occurred to me to wonder what my kids friends used to look like. They were all chubby once lol or have we forgotten momma and baby classes?
    Ps I love those jammies!

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